Wednesday, April 04, 2007

Makeover Mama: Phase 2

Now that I have made a commitment to re-introduce exercise to my daily routine, I feel so much better. Actually making time for excercize is another story entirely.

So what's next for Makeover Mama? Well, I spent an hour yesterday getting the most intense foot massage ever. I never knew I could have a knot in my big toe. I actually got really sick in the afternoon.

Not sure if it was the foot massage or dodgy shrimp dumplings. All I know is I felt really dizzy, my body ached all over, I felt so weak I couldn't pick up Chase and my feet were so hot they felt like they were on fire. The last symptom makes me think my illness was as a result of the foot massage - as hot feet are usually not a symptom of food poisoning.

I went to bed early last night. I feel much better now, but my lower back is still a bit tender. Strange, because one of the pressure points that hurt the most while it was being massaged was linked to the sciatic nerve.

I'd like to believe that the massage has made me better in some way. Like the release of toxins was a good thing. But I don't feel better. Maybe next time I'll just ask for a standard massage.















Chart courtesy of http://www.momentum98.com/chart2fx.jpg

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

Happy Birthday To Hubs!

Chase, clever girl, has been planning a big surprise for her daddy's birthday.

Besides having flowers delivered to her daddy's office today, she also decided to take her first steps!!! When Hubs arrived home, she took her first two steps - right into her Daddy's arms.

Absolutely amazing. We managed to catch one walking session on film (short movie).

She walks a bit like the Tin Man, in the Wizard of Oz. Her knee joints need to be oiled. Once she gets the bending of the knees down, she will be unstoppable.

We will be in big trouble.

Ladies Luncheon

"You'll be surprised by the number of women," I was told by an expat who coordinates a quarterly ladies luncheon in Dalian.

I was. Sixty ladies attended.

There was a handful of Europeans, many of which I knew. There was also a large number of Japanese, Koreans and Chinese ladies, all who all hung out with each other. There were 5 Americans, 4 of which were from Portland, Oregon (no kidding), 1 of which has a 14 month-old-son. I gave her my number - and thought - "please be normal so we can be friends."

Monday, April 02, 2007

Birthday Thanks!




















To Grandpa Mark and Oooh La La, thank you for the birthday card.

To Nana Cris, thank you for coming out to China for Chase's birthday.

To Kevin, Megge, Sean and Julia for the lovely outfits, stuffed animals and cupcake sticker! She loves them all!

To Jeff, Victoria, Olivia and Jack, thank you for the lovely dress and adorable book.

To Sarah and Lockett, thank you for posting your birthday wishes.

I really wanted to get pictures of her in each and every outfit, but time just seems to be slipping by - and I have no good excuse.

I wanted to make sure I thanked everyone for thinking of Chase, before we get too far into April!

15 Min.

I ran for 15 min today. I can't believe I am THAT out of shape.
I guess carrying a 25lb baby isn't the best for cardio.
The good news: I don't have to spend any time lifting weights - I already do that all day, everyday.

I have to say that jumping on the treadmill was like catching up with an old friend. That said, it would have been better if I had my best girlfriend from home running along beside me.

She was always more fit than I, which made me try harder in a "I wish I was as fit as you" competitive way.

I was a little afraid that I would feel a little extra skin bouncing around, but I didn't. I was a little afraid it wouldn't feel good, but it did. I didn't want to leave my darling girl at home with YP, but I know she is in good hands, and I know I need this time for myself.

I just can't believe how hard it is for me to walk out of the door without her in my arms.

Sunday, April 01, 2007

Makeover Mama

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like a Glamour "don't?"
Maybe it's the baggy clothes, covered in stains and crusty food.
Maybe it's the hair that has grown too long and is now permanently "up."
Maybe it's the minimal make-up (just enough to hide the bags under my eyes).

Time to start working out again.
Time to spend a little time on myself.
Time to start thinking about clothes again.
About makeup. About hair.
About feeling feminine, feeling glamorous.

And, since we live in China, it's time to have my energy (chi) professionally evaluated.
I'm pretty sure my chi is pooling somewhere - rather than flowing freely.
Maybe it's caught behind my knee or it is stuck in my elbow.

Hopefully it's nothing a little acupuncture, herbs and bamboo cupping can't cure.

Saturday, March 31, 2007

Chase Update

At the ripe old age of one, Chase can say "duck," "mama," "dada," "xie xie," "nana," "baba" and "nei nei." Four words in English; three words in Chinese (although it is completely possible that she is fluent in Chinese and I just don't understand her).

She also understands "hello," "goodbye," "ni hao," "zaijin," "fish," "hat," "milk," "kiwi," "papaya," "mu gua" - along with a handful of other words. It is amazing to see her connect words to objects. She can even tell me when her diaper is wet. Clever girl.

We have been singing "Patty Cake" for quite some time. Almost every day she will use hand gestures I use within the song - on her own. When I look down at her and say "mark it with a Ch," she smiles back as if to say, "yes, that is exactly what I was thinking."

She loves reading, although she still "grunts." I'm sure she is just concentrating. It will be interesting to see if this is just a phase or if I will be approached by a school teacher - I can see it now, "ahem, did you know your daughter grunts while she reads?"

Chase loves to compare things. She has two xylophones (one metal, one wood), which she loves. She also has two ring games (one plastic, one wood), which she loves.

She still adores music. We bought her an electronic keyboard for her first birthday. She dances to the music, plays the piano, explores the different accompaniments. It's a brilliant toy. Nana Cris brought out a 'build your own horn' which Chase really loves - she's just learned how to use it. She has also figured out how to play a harmonica - she still needs practice, but she can get a good note out every now and then.

She still loves fruit and yogurt - and Chinese food. She is good at trying new things - last night she enjoyed a taste of duck and pasta with cuttlefish ink.

Perhaps it is because she is worshipped like a little goddess here, but I can say without a doubt that she is very social and extremely extroverted. She loves interacting with new people. She is starting to learn what it takes to get attention (loud fake laughter seems to do the trick).

Chase has learned to drink milk from a straw, so now we only use bottles close to bedtime. Hurrah. Learning to drink from a cup is next ... wish me luck.

She is really movin' now. Chase has a little plastic fisher price walker that she just started using. She can stand without support for short periods of time.

All in all, she is simply amazing.

Thursday, March 29, 2007

Bye To Nana Cris

Thank you Nana Cris for coming out to visit.

It was so wonderful to see you.
Chase and I enjoyed every moment.
Qin Shoo Shoo's eyes teared up after we said goodbye to you in the airport.
You will be missed!

I hope you enjoy the Great Wall and the Forbidden City.
Can't wait to hear about your adventures in Beijing.

Love you!

Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Inspiration

After having a baby, a woman's body and mind changes. At least mine did.

Thankfully, I've been able to reclaim my body (although I have not had a proper work out in over a year) - my mind is a different subject all together. I believe my body is what it is due to the fact we have been in constant motion since Chase was born. (Nothing keeps you slimmer than carrying a small child everywhere you go).

But I've also realized that in spite of my best efforts, there are some days when I look in the mirror and feel that I have just let myself go. My clothes are usually spotty with various things, courtesy of Chase - food usually. My clothes don't really fit - most are either too small (thanks to the dryer) or too big (thanks to weight loss), too fancy (old, work clothes) or too stained (thanks to my inability to eat with chopsticks while holding a squirmy baby).

So here I am in China, where I can really do - anything. All I have to do is dream it. And somehow, because anything is possible, I have frozen up. With so much possibility, I can't focus.

Having Nana Cris in town has been so great. It has helped me regroup. I know what I want now, I just have to sit down and figure out how to do it (like most things in life).

Nana's Wild Adventures

This past week has been so busy.
Nana Banana has been in town.

So what have we been up to?




















Thursday:

Picked mom (Nana Cris) up at the airport on Friday evening. The fog was so thick I was worried her plane wouldn't land. On our way to pick up hubs, I tried to show her around a little but the fog was too thick; we could barely see the buildings on the side of the road.

From the airport we drove to Hub's office, picked him up, and returned home. We ate a lovely dinner (c/o Pung) and played with Chase until she couldn't keep her eyes open.

Friday:
We awoke early. I showed my mom around the complex. We then went to Starbucks, and then explored the nearby shopping malls (grocery store, children's store, among other stores). We then went to the flower market and paid a quick visit to Eddie the Baker (to pick up the Chasecake). From the flower market, we made a mad dash for home, so that Nana Cris could take her painting lesson. She painted the most beautiful peonies. Following the painting lesson, Nana Cris relaxed with a massage. We then ate Chasecake and sang Happy Birthday one last time to our littlest lady.

Saturday:
Saturday morning I had to make a quick trip to a lady doctor. Just one of those "woman issues" that I had been in denial about because I SO didn't want to go to a hospital here. I was pleasantly surprised that the doctor spoke English. The exam and hospital experience was quite long and complicated, as you have to do everything yourself, and there are three people for every kind of transaction. So, for example, when I went to pick up my perscription (which I swear is a yellow herb and black tea), I had to first get my perscription priced, then pay for it, then pick it up - every time I had to go to a different desk and talk to a different person. And then I had to go back to the doctor to figure out what to do with the stuff.

We then went to lunch at the Spa. Mom enjoyed a lovely sea cucumber and tofu lunch. We then went to a big market, hubs opted out, and it is a good thing he did. Then we went to the art supply store, to buy Nana Cris art supplies.

Next, we picked up Hubs and went to the Dalian Museum of History, where we all learned a lot about Dalian. From there, Hubs went home and mom and I went to the expo center, which happened to have an antiques fair. I bought a lovely jade flower.

That night, Chase learned how to let go (when throwing a ball), and had her first experience drawing with crayons and paper. She enjoyed a bath with colored tablets. She got scared of mom's black sock (because it said "baaaa"), and then she saw her reflection in the glass door - and wondered how she could be outside and inside at the same time.

Sunday:
First up - mom and I took a little stroll by the Yellow Sea. Then off to Dim Sum. Enjoyed a lovely meal at the Shangri-La. Then mom and I hit the underground maze of shops in downtown Dalian, while hubs hit the local bath house. We met up back at the apartment.

Mom talked to our friend, Craig, about teaching and Hubs and I enjoyed a lovely stroll along the Yellow Sea.

Mom was kind enough to do a little baby sitting. Hubs and I enjoyed a nice dinner out. Meanwhile, back at home, our little lady put both her hands into her pasta.

Monday:
Mom woke up early (before we got up) and explored the great outdoors. She met a Chinese woman and went running with her.

We then explored the mall where Gymboree is located. Nana took Chase to her Gymboree lesson. We rushed home, Chase had a nap. She then had her French lesson. From there, we went swimming and saw a woman with hair down to her ankles. Amazing.

We came home and Chase passed out from exhaustion.

Tuesday:
Mom woke up early (again). This time she went to where the Chinese practice Tai Chi.
We set off upon her return to the Temple of the Big Black Mountain. We wove through Dahai Village, and up to Xiangshui Temple (a famous Taoist temple built in the Tang Dynasty - about 618 AD). From there, we went to Shigu Temple (Palace of the Tang Emperor), which was built in at the beginning of the Sui Dynasty (580-618 A.D.).
















On our way to the temple, we bought ghost papers (to burn for ancestors), incense (to burn for ourselves) and a bag of goldfish (to release). The fish were blessed before we let them go. Qin, our driver, guided us through the process.















Xiangshui Temple...





























One could also buy birds and turtles to release ...










































We burned a lot of incense and lit a lot of candles...















Burned ghost paper...















Drank from the mountain spring...




















And then we were off to the next temple ...
















































For those who are looking for spiritual cleansing, there is a path that winds up the mountain, near the top is an almost 70 degree row of 200 steps. Visitor are supposed to arrive at the temple gates in a state of inner peace. (Don't let this picture fool you, Qin drove us right up to the front door of the temple - I don't think he wanted to walk, and I certainly couldn't have carried Chase all the way up. A big apology to Nana Banana, because she wanted to walk the steps and I didn't let her.)















From there, we drove into the nearest town and enjoyed a big bowl of noodles. Next on the list, Russian Street, which is pretty tacky and garish, but worth a quick stop.

Wednesday:
The morning seemed to speed by. We managed to get out of the house with enough time to do a quick lap around the mall, before heading to Gymboree. Nana Banana took the Gymboree class with Chase. We went to the tailor to pick up a lovely wool jacket for mom, and then we were off to a Chinese doctor - so mom could enjoy cupping and acupucture.

So, what will we do tomorrow?

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

Chasecake















A lovely New York style cheesecake (aka Chasecake) from Eddie the Baker, who wrote Happy Birthday, Chase (Chasz) in Chinese.


































As Chase didn't quite know what to do with a huge cheesecake (Chasecake), Nana Banana (Nana Cris) helped her take the first bite.

Silence

Silence. But not because I had nothing to say.
"Big brother" decided to block me from blogger.
But now I guess "they" have decided I am harmless.
I can access my account again.

Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Shanghai Surprise

Happy Birthday, Baby!














(Chase was staring at the gathering crowds)

Day 1:

We awoke Chase early on her first birthday. We had told her we would need to wake up early to catch a plane to Shanghai, but she still seemed surprised.









We sang happy birthday and gave her a couple of her presents.









We didn’t give them all to her because we had a plane to catch, and nothing seemed less fair than giving her a gift and then taking it away from her.









After a couple minutes playing with her presents, we moved on to breakfast.











And then we were off to catch our plane.












We arrived in Shanghai in the morning. After checking into the hotel, we hit the streets. We had read quite a bit about the Shanghai art scene and were keen to check it out. So we headed over to an area of town known for its galleries and artist studios.
























It was amazing. Blocks and blocks of studio space filled with truly original, truly interesting art. We spent several hours there, taking it all in. The art was so good, that unfortunately other people noticed too – so the pieces started around $800 US, and only went up in price. The artists really weren’t open to coming down in price, as most vendors are in China, so Hubs and I were only able to afford a small pen and ink drawing on a cardboard role.

From there, we hopped a cab to the Bund.
















After the Bund, we decided to visit the Shanghai Art Museum, which had a couple great exhibits, but stank of oil paint. The fumes were so bad it detracted from the experience. In need of a rest, we went up to the restaurant on the top floor and kicked back for a little while.

After that, we decided to go for a little walk and stumbled across a great pedestrian street.

From there, we headed to a Mexican restaurant, called the Badlands, and after stepping foot inside, we agreed we’d have a better meal if we just walked into any other restaurant in Shanghai. So we decided to take our chances and ended up wandering into a Cuban restaurant, which turned out to provide us with some of the best spicy food we’ve had in a while.

Exhausted, we headed back to the hotel, filled it with balloons...


















... sang Happy Birthday one more time and then fell asleep.

Day 2:

Hubs had to work, so Chase and I explored Shanghai on our own.

Unfortunately it was raining. I headed to Gymboree in hopes there would be a morning class she could take advantage of… there wasn’t. So, as outdoor activities were out of the question, we headed for the Shanghai Museum.

The museum was massive, with four stories and three to four exhibitions on each floor. Some of my favorites included the Buddha, painting, furniture, Chinese currency and pottery exhibitions. After carrying Chase (who now weighs 10.4 kg, almost 25 lbs), and her baby bag (another 8 lbs), on and off for four hours, my back was literally breaking and my arms were weak. She, meanwhile, was enjoying a snooze.

So I called it a day and headed back to the hotel. We lazed about for the rest of the afternoon, watched the rain pouring down outside, and played with balloons. We checked out the lobby gift shop and the lobby quick stop (for a diet coke and snickers bar). Not much going on there.

But I kept hoping that if I rested for an afternoon, I would feel refreshed enough (and hopefully the rain would subside) in the morning so we could go out exploring again.

Day 3:

When I awoke, the rain had stopped and my back felt stronger. Chase and I headed to Shanghai’s Old Town ...











... and Yuyuan Gardens – which were magnificent. A rich Ming Dynasty family founded the gardens in 1559 and nurtured them into a glorious garden 18 years later. Unfortunately they were destroyed during the Opium War in the mid 1800s. They were then destroyed again by the French years later. They have since been restored and are absolutely beautiful – a real respite from the streets of Shanghai.




















Inside the gardens there was also a lovely shop selling paintings, one of which I ended up buying for Chase’s room.

From there we ran back to the hotel to drop off the painting. While we were there, Chase caught a quick nap, and we were off again – this time to Doulun Cultural street, which had some lovely old houses as well as little shops to peruse.



























And then we hopped a cab to the French Concession, where we paid a visit to Sun Yatsen’s former residence. Sun Yatsen, known as the “Father of the Revolution” or the “Father of the Republic,” did away with China’s monarchy and created a republic. His house was lovely and well preserved.









With not a moment to spare, we jumped back in a cab, met Hubs at the hotel and raced to the airport to catch our plane back to Dalian.

While Shanghai was lovely, I much preferred Hong Kong. Perhaps because I just have a stronger connection to the city after living there. The air was thick and heavy – again, not a place I’d want to be in the middle of the Summer, when temps reach upwards to 40 degrees Celsius. The noise and the pollution made me happy we were only there for a couple days – and even happier that we live in Dalian.

Saturday, March 17, 2007

Shanghai Birthday

I had this elaborate plan. I was going to spend tonight blowing up balloons and wrapping gifts. I was going to fill Chase's room with balloons and presents tonight while she slept.

But instead, we spent this evening packing for another trip. We have an opportunity to see Shanghai, so why not?

So now my elaborate plan is not so elaborate. She'll get to open a couple presents tomorrow around 5 a.m. before we hit the road. I'll just have to find a cake in Shanghai. And while she doesn't know it, I've packed our suitcase with balloons so we can fill our hotel room (won't housekeeping enjoy that!).

We will return to Dalian on Tuesday night.

And even more good times and suprises are ahead for Chase -- Grandma Aiya arrives Thursday!

Friday, March 16, 2007

Tiger Tiger

Today we painted tigers.
Mine is on the right.
The one on the left was painted by my instructor.
Mine looked like a dog at first.
In fact, my instructor laughed pretty hard.
Didn't exactly build my confidence.
But I'm glad I could amuse him.
He absolutely astounds me.
Watching him sketch and paint is so inspiring, but at the same time so intimidating.

Thursday, March 15, 2007

Lost In Translation

There are many, many shirts here that make me say, "what the heck does that mean?"
This one was too good to pass up.




















The one above is for Chase (to enlarge, click on the photo).

I almost bought one for myself that said "Snoopy and Eteinds," which I can only guess was supposed to read "Snoopy and Friends."

Dinner Tonight

Eggs with peas and shrimp ...














Curried (American) beef with onions ...














"Sea vegetable," which I can only describe as tasting"of the sea."

First Chinese Play Date

The play date was a success, although the woman I initially wanted to invite (the one in my complex) didn't come. I have a feeling that my well-meaning Gymboree friend forgot to invite her.

I had tea (for the parents), fruit (for the kiddos) and mini sponge cakes (FYI: not a hit - maybe I should have put out an odd number instead of an even number?) on offer. The parents brought presents for Chase. I said, "not a party" over and over when I invited them, but they must have thought more than one invite = party.

I found myself wondering about cultural etiquette - do I save them and open them later or do I open them in front of them? I remembered reading somewhere that if you open presents immediately, it indicates you are greedy, so I put them on the bookshelf and said loudly "I will save them for Chase's birthday," but I'm not completely sure they understood what I said.

They mostly spoke in Chinese to each other. They got a good laugh out of her bed, which I think was the strangest thing they had ever seen. (What? No crib?) One said, "Does your daughter sleep here (meaning her room) alone?" I said, "yes." They continued, "Do you like her?"

Truth is, I don't just like her - I love her with all my heart. In fact, my love for her is so overwhelming it scares me. But I realized that responding in any way other than nodding with a smile would put me smack dab into the middle of a cultural discussion - something I try to avoid - especially when it comes to how different people/different cultures parent their children.















Now that it is over, I will admit I was really nervous about today. I have found the Chinese are very kind, and very inquisitive people. I have also found they talk a lot (gossip is perhaps a better word) amongst themselves. So I'm pretty sure that all the parents and the staff at Gymboree will get a full report - goodness only knows what they will say!

Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Driving In China

Pulled this directly from the Dalian Expat Web site, not sure how accurate it is, but I found it quite interesting:

Some facts about driving in China courtesy of CCTV.

1. In 1995 there were more than 950,000 REGISTERED car accidents in China, most of which were caused by new drivers. Given the fact that most accidents in China are settled by handing over cash on the spot, this is a terrifying statistic.

2. In the first two years after having passed your test there is a 15% chance of having an accident.

3. The average experience of a Chinese driver in China is less than two years.

Just Another Day

For some reason, it is extremely difficult for me to tell Chinese mums, "aunties" (maids) and kids apart. For one thing, the kids go to Gymboree with different people all the time. Sometimes they are with their mums, other times with their grand mums, and still other times they are with their "aunties."

When Chase and I went to visit the Chinese woman in our complex, it was the first time I had seen her. I have been trying to call her ever since to arrange a time for her to come to our apartment.

Long story short, I invited this woman , or someone I thought was the same woman, to come over tomorrow. Turns out - it is not the same woman. So I now have this random woman with her little boy coming over tomorrow to play. Seriously.

But wait, there's more. Let's not forget about the Chinese swimmer play date, which I set up for Saturday because I thought he was busy during the week. Well, he hears me talking to this random woman, who I have just invited over, and he tells the Gymboree woman who is acting as my interpreter that he didn't know there was a play date tomorrow, he thought it was Saturday. So then I have to explain that I thought he was busy, and of course he is invited tomorrow.

And then my Gymboree interpreter tells me that this random woman I've just invited is a really good friend of the woman who lives in my complex, and should she invite her to come along - to which I said, "oh yes, please do!"

So I have now become a hostess to a little gathering where nobody speaks English - and I am embarrassed to say I can't even tell my guests apart.